Would you believe that despite being the Princess of Pop and the most followed celebrity on Instagram, Selena Gomez has never appeared on the cover of Vogue? Until now.
Anna Wintour finally gave her time to shine and that she did. Selena opened up about her battle with mental illness, what led to her three month stay in rehab and how she’s coping with her return to the spotlight. Selena said that she hopes sharing her story will encourage others to be more open about their own mental health struggles and we LOVE her for this because speaking out ain’t always easy.
There were loads of take-aways from this interview, but here are our top five;
1. She found a way to diss Biebs…in a way only Selena can.
Selena subtly alludes to ex-boyfriend of three years, Justin Bieber, but never actually says his name – but we all know the Biebs doesn’t like taking photos with fans. “Somebody I used to hang out with would always get very frustrated with me,” she says, speaking as to why she always stops to take photos with young fans. “But I have a hard time saying no to children.”
2. She’s broken-up with Instagram.
She may be the most followed celebrity on Instagram with 110 million followers but she’s had to delete it from her phone for her mental health.
“As soon as I became the most followed person on Instagram, I sort of freaked out,” she said. “It had become so consuming to me. It’s what I woke up to and went to sleep to. I was an addict, and it felt like I was seeing things I didn’t want to see, like it was putting things in my head that I didn’t want to care about. I always end up feeling like shit when I look at Instagram. Which is why I’m kind of under the radar, ghosting it a bit.”
Selena doesn’t even have the Insta app on her phone any more; in fact, she says she doesn’t even have the password to her account. So if you see new pics, they’ve been posted by Selena’s assistant.
I always end up feeling like shit when I look at Instagram.
3.Only 17 people have her phone number – and only 2 of them are famous
Selena’s made it clear that she and social media are not best mates, so hearing that she barely uses her phone isn’t surprising – but the fact that so few people have her number does. “I think 17 people have my phone number right now,” she said. “Maybe two are famous.” She says she prefers to put her phone away and spend quality time with her girlfriends who include “a realtor, a techie, some folks from church.”
4. She gets real about her time in rehab
Two years ago Selena went to rehab for 90 days to deal with mental health issues, and she lets us in on what that time in her life was really like.
“My self-esteem was shot. I was depressed, anxious. I started to have panic attacks right before getting onstage, or right after leaving the stage. Basically I felt I wasn’t good enough, wasn’t capable. I felt I wasn’t giving my fans anything, and they could see it—which, I think, was a complete distortion,” she says of the reasons leading to her trip to a mental health facility in Tennessee in 2014.
“You have no idea how incredible it felt to just be with six girls. Real people who couldn’t give two shits about who I was, who were fighting for their lives. It was one of the hardest things I’ve done, but it was the best thing I’ve done.”
I felt I wasn’t good enough, wasn’t capable.
5. She goes to therapy five days a week
After her time in rehab, Selena made it a priority to take care of her mental health and currently sees a therapist five days a week. She revealed she has found a lot of benefit in doing Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, which is a technique that teaches patients how to accept uncomfortable thoughts and then gives you the tools to change them.
“DBT has completely changed my life. I wish more people would talk about therapy,” she said. “We girls, we’re taught to be almost too resilient, to be strong and sexy and cool and laid-back; the girl who’s down … We also need to feel allowed to fall apart.
We have had some incredible women on our Show + Tell couch talk about their very real and personal stories around mental illness, you can watch them here: