When my wee-stick revealed to me via two pink lines that I was pregnant, the first thing I thought about (after having a ten minute happy/crazy cry) was telling my family and friends. I couldn’t wait to share the news with everyone in my life. The thought of waiting 12 weeks to spill the fertility beans didn’t even factor into my mind. There was NO WAY I would be able to keep it to myself for that long and within the first 24 hours, I reckon everyone knew I was going to be a mum. Even the cashier at my local fruit shop.
I’m very fortunate to have not experienced miscarriage. I have been pregnant twice and have given birth to two healthy children and that is not something I have ever taken for granted. I know I am lucky and I am so grateful for it. I often wonder if I would have waited to share my news if I had struggled with conception or miscarriage and while I’ll never truly know, I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t have waited. Knowing myself, I just don’t think I would have had the willpower to keep it in.
You may have seen the buzz around The Young Mummy aka Sophie Cachia a month or so back when she shared her latest pregnancy news when she was nine weeks pregnant. Sophie, who so openly and honestly shares her life with her thousands of followers across social media and her highly successful blog, decided to share the news earlier than the usual 12 weeks. After “eight months of baby-making practice,” Sophie revealed that she was encouraged by a close friend to follow her gut and announce her pregnancy before the societal norm that is the 12-week milestone.
After two miscarriages, Sophie’s friend told her, “I told everyone I was pregnant very early purely because of the support I NEEDED. It’s fucking lonely and it’s heartbreaking…trying to pretend you were never pregnant. I wish I followed someone like you when I was going through it all so I didn’t just feel the need to shut it off.” And that was the kicker for Sophie.
“I didn’t make the decision to tell the world I’m pregnant out of stupidity.
I have had a child before. I am well aware of the risks, and I know it’s simply not the norm.
But who gets to decide the norm for me?
I looked at this idea with the most realistic approach possible. I thought if something was to go wrong, if I was to experience a miscarriage with this pregnancy – whether it be in the next three weeks or even after – then I would share it anyway.
I would share the heartache, I would share the tears, and I would share my first experience of losing a baby. That’s what The Young Mummy is all about. I put everything on the table – the good and the bad, and through my blog I try and be nothing but brutally honest with the world.”
The point is, a woman shouldn’t feel bound by anyone else’s standards of what an acceptable time to do so is.