As single mum of two girls aged three and seven years-old there is a lot of estrogen in our house. I remember clearly the moment I found out my second born was a daughter and I was genuinely rapt at the idea of a house full of girls. Having grown up with two brothers, I had always wanted a sister, so having a pair of them suited me perfectly.
I’ve never put any pressure on them to be or do anything remotely considered girly, in fact I would dearly love to have less pink clothes in the house, but I’ve noticed in comparison with my friends that have boys, there are definitely some things that I truly get that most mums of boys don’t deal with. Here are a few:
You will never stop buying hair ties
There must be a hole somewhere in my house hiding about a million hair ties and just as many hair clips. Where do they all go? I swear I buy a new packet every week with the groceries but by the end of the week…gone.
Your house will never be free from glitter
I feel like monster mum when I say; sure you can do art and craft but no glitter. I am SO over glitter. It’s everywhere, on clothes, in the couch, in the car, in my hair. I might even hide the glitter pictures that constantly come home from school and childcare and sneak them into the bin when they are asleep. As I said, I’m a monster.
Science is not a boy thing
My girls are obsessed with science, from TV shows to real life experiements. All my 7-year-old wanted for Christmas was a science kit and has spent the last four months praising Santa for being such a genuis for knowing exactly what she wanted.
My Little Pony, Shopkins and Barbies are a religion
I know more about Shopkins and Barbies, Strawberry Shortcake, Peppa Pig and My Little Pony that could ever prove useful to anyone ever. Except how to hold a conversation with my daughters because these are VERY important topics in our household.
They will be called bossy
I cringe everytime someone calls one of my daughters bossy. When a girl is called this the world is telling her women in control are annoying and should know their place. No-one ever calls boys or men bossy. I always respond with my fave Sheryl Sandberg quote: “I want every little girl who’s told she’s bossy to be told instead she has leadership skills.” My youngest daughter has some amazing leadership skills.
The fascination of dress ups and make-up starts WAY too early
My daughters love to watch me get dressed and put on make-up. I’m definitely not obsessed with make-up, I’m lucky if I wear it once a week, but everytime I do I have an audience. I’ve also caught my 3-year-old more than once in my bra, telling me she can’t wait for the day I take her shopping for one. I sort of can’t wait for that day either.
Little boxes and small treasures will clutter your house
My oldest daughter once asked for little containers for her birthday. Her beside table is a collection of small treasures she has collected over the years, from shells to homemade pottery, cards and special jewellery. To be honest I can’t say my bedside table isn’t just a grown up version of this.
Sisters are for life
I love the bond between my two girls. They can be in tears with each other one minute, but they’re always totally on each other’s side when it comes to the outside world. That’s not to say siblings of all kinds can’t have this relationship, but I hope my daughters lean on each for many more years to come.
I love my daughters to bits, as I’m sure I would if they were boys. Like any parent I just want them to be happy and healthy. As their mum I am just thrilled to be part of the journey regardless of how many hair ties I have to buy.