Motherhood is HARD. It’s also fulfilling and rewarding and a million other positive adjectives, but some days, some days it can tear you down and leave you stripped to your bare bones. As a mum, there is nothing more comforting to me in those moments than to feel validated by another mother. Having your friend or mum or sister assure you that they too have been in that place; that they have also felt the waves of motherhood crashing down on them so fiercely that they have struggled to come up for air, can make all the difference when you’re at your lowest.
As mums, it’s important to have that someone to vent our frustrations to, who will allow us to cry and admit our struggles openly…and then encourage us to let it go. Because, haven’t we all been there? Holding it together can be exhausting and the shame that often comes with admitting that you’re frustrated, overwhelmed, feeling unappreciated and at your wit’s end, even just for a moment, is gut-wrenching. But it shouldn’t be. I don’t know of one mother who HASN’T felt this way from time to time. Because like all of life’s greatest rewards, motherhood comes with many challenges and having someone to help you climb that mountain with words of support makes getting to the top so much easier.
Gold Coast mum Amy-Lee Mangold recently wrote about the struggles of parenthood in a Facebook post that has since gone viral. Amy-Lee is a single mum raising her 19-month-old son, Theo, and her admission that “It’s OK not to be OK” has connected with women in a major way. Here’s what she had to say…
“It’s OK not to be OK.
Today I had a break down.
Being a single mum is tough. Being a single mum to a 19 month old that doesn’t want to sleep is even tougher.
I have next to no support around me. I have my son full time, his dad has nothing to do with us.
Today after I settled my son from his tantrums and popped him in front of the TV, I went to my room and cried.
Oh I cried so much. This isn’t he mum I want to be. I want to be full of smiles and happy all the time, but life has got on top of me.
Normally I don’t tell anyone when I’m struggling this much. But today I did and it made a difference to express how I felt.
Remember to not bottle up how you feel. Talk to someone. Anyone. Message me if you need to.
I live on the Gold Coast so if there is any mummies on the Gold Coast that are doing it tough, let me know and we can catch up and talk and laugh or cry!!
Just remember it is OK to not be OK, being a mummy is tough work.”
Amy-Lee’s honest words have struck a chord with mums all over the world and since posting it, she has been flooded with messages of support and understanding from other mothers who feel the same way. We love Amy-Lee’s words, not only because we know them to be true for so many of us, but mostly because of her willingness to be a support to other women who are struggling. Well done Amy-Lee, you are what the sisterhood is all about!
For those of you who feel like you need a bit more support or are experiencing feelings of depression, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or PANDA on 1300 726 306.