Surrogacy is the ultimate act of sisterhood and love. The idea that one woman would carry the baby of another, go through an entire pregnancy, give birth, and happily place that baby in the arms of its parents is one of the most awe-inspiring and totally unselfish things one woman can do for another.
I always wondered what the bonding process would be like for a new mother who meets her baby after nine months of watching it grow inside the womb of another. Would it be as amazing as if that baby came from you? More? Less? I had no idea until I read the story of Kim Overton and saw the stunning photographs of the birth of her son, Oliver.
Kim, a successful entrepreneur, gave birth to her first son as a single mother in 2010 after undergoing surgery to remove fibroid tumours. After a second surgery in 2012, Kim was struggling to fall pregnant and was told that there was “too much stuff” going on in her uterus and that conception may not be possible again. Kim was devastated but flatly refused to give up.
Kim’s cousin’s 26-year-old daughter, Cyndee, who was a mother-of-two herself, offered to carry Kim’s child for her. During the year and a half journey that followed, Kim met and married a man named Jason who had a five-year-old son of his own. In that time, Kim had a family that consisted of her new husband, two sons and Cyndee was pregnant with Kim’s baby.
On March 21st, after 37 weeks of attending every single doctor’s appointment with Cyndee, Kim and Jason, as well as Kim’s son, were there to welcome the new baby into the world. Kim told Babble, “She pushed four times, it was a beautiful birth. Once he came out, it was emotional and loving, we were laughing and crying at the same time. It was like a dream.”
Kim said it was “very hard to compare” the two totally different births of her sons, but found the most beautiful words to describe the process. “My first was a dream come true. But this – it was like having two dreams come true. I’ve heard people question that, wondering if a mom could have the same attachment, but I’m sitting here now to tell you it was instant love. It took so long and he was in my cousin’s body, but it was just instant love.”
Cyndee continues to breastfeed Oliver whenever she can and pumps to allow him to receive her breast milk. Kim explained that as little Oliver, who is now three weeks old, grows and learns of his incredible birth story, it will be up to him to decide what he calls Cyndee.
These photographs are just so moving and such a testament to the love of two women and their families who came together to make a new little life possible. I can’t think of anything more amazing.