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Sheryl Sandberg’s NEW book is another must read

Carla McConnell by Carla McConnell
March 22nd, 2017
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When you lose someone you truly love the grief is unbearable. Putting one foot in front of the other to create a new life without that person can be the hardest thing you’ve ever done. My mum died in a car accident when I was 21-years-old and the pain was soul destroying. I had never felt anything like it and learning to live in a world without her was by far the worst and greatest thing I’ve ever done.

When I say greatest, I mean the achievement of moving on from where I was when she died, to where I am now. I really didn’t think I would survive the grief that crushed me, but I did. And I also learnt a thing or two. I learnt that I am capable of coping even when my world falls in on itself. I learnt to ask for help when I need it, and I learnt to lean on people. I learnt asking ‘what if’ in a situation that is unchangable is a waste of my time. I learnt the power of my own strength. I have used these skills throughout my life when times have been tough. If I could move onto happiness after my mother’s sudden death then I can deal with most things in this world.

Sometimes Option B is the only one we have, but that doesn’t mean we give up.

Sheryl Sandberg, the COO of Facebook and author of ‘Lean In’, has written a new book about resilience and finding joy after loss. In May 2015 Sheryl’s husband Dave Goldberg died suddenly after heart complications while they were on holiday in Mexico.  The title of her upcoming book, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy, was inspired by a conversation with a friend after her husband’s death.

A few weeks after my husband Dave died, I was talking to my friend Phil Deutch about a father-son activity that Dave was not here to do. We came up with a plan for someone to fill in so my son would not have to miss out. I cried, “But I want Dave.” Phil put his arm around me and said, “Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of Option B.” That became my mantra, and for the past two years I’ve tried hard to find meaning and happiness in the wake of our despair.

 

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Sometimes Option B is the only one we have, but that doesn’t mean we give up.

While unbelievably tough, learning to deal with hardship and moving on is one of the greatest things we can conquer. Sheryl’s first book Lean In was a massive hit and encouraged women to pursue the dream of having it all in both their personal and professional lives. This new book is due to be released April 24 and is on our must-read list. No doubt it’ll be another mega hit for this amazing woman.

Will you read Sheryl’s new book?

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