The greatest gift my parents ever gave me was an appreciation for my body. They talked about the incredible function of my body instead of how it looked..and when I had moments of self doubt because, in my opinion I had way too much muscle for a girl, they shut it down by talking about how lucky I was to have a body that was strong, capable and did everything I asked of it. Now, I realise how lucky I was to go through my childhood being self confident and for the most part totally accepting of my body.
I only realise now how unusual that was and still is. It’s unusual to hear women talk about the function of their body more than the way it looks. It’s sadly not second nature for us to appreciate how our bodies work – but it has become second nature for us to think about all of the flaws our body has based on how it looks. You can’t blame celebrities for become consumed with how they look because more often than not, that’s all they’re judged upon.
Because it’s so unusual to hear women talk about their bodies for their function only…when I saw Hilary Duff’s recent reply to body shamers on her Instagram I smiled from the inside out. It made me even more proud to be a woman than I already am.
Hilary got slammed for her thirty-something body being ‘not perfect’, with trolls pointing out her ‘flaws’ – so she came back with a reply that totally schooled the shamers in the BEST way.
“I am posting this on behalf of young girls, women, and mothers of all ages. I’m enjoying vacation with my son after a long season of shooting and being away from him for weeks at a time over those months. Since websites and magazines love to share ‘celeb flaws’ – well I have them! My body has given me the greatest gift of my life: Luca, 5 years ago.”
“I’m turning 30 in September and my body is healthy and gets me where I need to go. Ladies let’s be proud of what we’ve got and stop wasting precious time in the day wishing we were different, better and unflawed.”
“You guys (you know who you are!) already know how to ruin a good time, and now you are body shamers as well. #kissmyass”
The only thing she got wrong was admitting that she ‘has flaws’…I certainly don’t see any. I see a healthy woman, being a wonderful mum with a body that functions how it’s supposed to.
The more and more women that speak of their bodies like this and we celebrate them for it – the more these ‘normal’ messages will reach young girls and shape their opinions of their bodies in a healthy and accepting way. Well played Hil, well played.
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