When I fell pregnant for the first time, it was a bit of a shock. My husband and I had decided four years into our marriage that we’d start trying for a baby in about six months time. Little did I know that after years of VERY protected sex (condoms AND the pill), that the one time we went ‘unprotected’ was the time that our daughter decided she was ready to come into our lives.
I’m the first to admit that I’ve been very fortunate when it comes to baby-making. When my daughter was 18 months old, I fell pregnant with our son after around two months of trying and I’m very lucky, and grateful, to have not experienced the pain of miscarriage.
After we (actually, I) decided that we weren’t going to have any more kids, I have been hyper-vigilant about NOT getting pregnant. My shop is closed. My baby stuff is gone. I’m content.
But it turns out that there are ways you can get pregnant that you’d never considered; ways that however unlikely, could result in a pregnancy. It’s important we know this stuff, not just for ourselves, but for our sons and daughters who might be partaking in a bit of sexual experimentation.
According to Dr Natasha Andreadis, a Sydney-based infertility and reproductive endocrinologist, there are some pretty freaky ways you can fall pregnant. Prepare to have your mind blown….
You can get pregnant from “fooling around” i.e. NO penetration:
It seems that having semen anywhere in the vicinity of your vaginal opening could result in pregnancy. For example, if a man ejaculates on his hand and then puts his fingers inside your vagina (TMI?), there is a possibility that if he has Michael Phelps-style swimmers, they could make their way up to an egg. Highly unlikely, but possible none the less.
Dry humping, something most randy teens partake in, could also result in pregnancy. NO WAY? Yes way. If your fella ejaculates and the semen soaks through his underwear to yours, it could technically make it’s way into your vag. Eeeeek!
You can get pregnant even if he doesn’t ejaculate in your vagina:
So there’s no delicate way of saying this so strap yourselves in. Pre-cum is a very real thing, so beware if you’re relying on him pulling out. If he’s going to ejaculate on you, make sure it’s not in a spot that could trickle into your vagina. So be careful with areas like the thighs and tummy. Keep it well above that belly button to eliminate chances of it making its way downtown. Think breasts, chest and face if that’s your thang. Bottom line – keep that sperm as far away from your lady parts as possible.
You can get pregnant at ANY time of the month:
Particularly if you have irregular periods, getting pregnant while you’re menstruating is be a possibility. Sperm can live inside a woman for up to five days and an egg can survive for 24 hours according to the website What To Expect, so if you have sex on the last day of your period and your body decides to ovulate earlier than usual, pregnancy is a possibility.
You can get pregnant while breastfeeding:
Think your safe having sex while breastfeeding? Think again. Although you are less fertile during this time, it doesn’t mean you’re infertile, so breastfeeding is NOT a natural contraceptive. Don’t listen to old wives’ tales that tell you otherwise. According to Baby Centre, you probably won’t know that your first post-natal egg has been released until two weeks later when your period arrives. While exclusive round-the-clock breastfeeding could halt menstruation for up to a year following birth, there are no guarantees and things like formula supplementation and a baby that doesn’t require nightly feeds could impact how soon that first egg decides to release. Be careful and use protection during this time if you want to lessen the chances of getting preggers.
You can get pregnant even if you’re using contraception:
Whoa. Apparently, many of us aren’t aware of the possibilities of falling pregnant even though we’re using contraception.
The pill: Not taking it at the same time every day could impact its effectiveness, so set an alarm to ensure you take it at the exact same time each day. A course of antibiotics could also impact how well it works and there’s a very real chance of getting up the duff in this case. True story, I’ve had friends this has happened to.
Condoms: These can break. Check before (open the packet gently and avoid using your mouth instead of your hands when removing and placing on the peen) and check again after intercourse to ensure there were no holes those cheeky sperm could have made their way through.
IUD’s: These can dislodge without you knowing. I had a Mirena IUD in for five years after my son was born and had I know this, I would have insisted on condoms too. Possibly two.
While all of these scenarios are fairly unlikely, it’s important for you – and your kids – to know that pregnancy is a possibility whenever you’re sexually active.
The beautiful Ada Nicodemou spoke so openly about her struggle to fall pregnant with her gorgeous little man. Have a listen to the pod version below, then come join our pod party here.