This post contains video and content about miscarriage, and may be triggering for some readers.
The extremely good fortune of having two pregnancies, both resulting in healthy babies, is the kind of luck that is never lost on me. I didn’t do anything ‘right’, take any extra special precautions or want my babies any more than anyone else – it was just dumb luck. I’ve watched several of the women closest to me experience miscarriage and pregnancy loss and for each of them, the experience was vastly different. Some were able to view their loss as a ‘sign that something wasn’t right’, while others were completely brought to their knees with grief.
One in four Australian women will experience a pregnancy loss at some point, with peer support group, SANDS (Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Newborn Death Support), estimating that 106,ooo babies per year are lost through death of a newborn, miscarriage or pregnancy loss in Australia. Yet, it still remains a topic that has many women and couples suffering in silence because even now, in 2020, it still carries a very strange and awful sense of failure and stigma.
A recent Stan documentary called MuM: Misunderstandings of Miscarriage explores the impact of miscarriage through the eyes of women who have experienced it first-hand. Presented by Tahnya MacManus, who shares her own story of miscarriage while she and husband Tristan were trying to conceive their second child, MuM aims to open up the conversation around pregnancy loss.
“After experiencing my second miscarriage I was devastated, lost, and angry,’ Tahyna said in a statement. ‘Despite having an incredibly supportive network of family and friends around me, I felt terribly alone. By sharing what I once considered to be my greatest shame, I discovered a way to heal and honour my loss. I also realised I wasn’t alone. There are so many resilient, courageous women going through the same thing, and I am privileged to be able to share their stories too, in the hopes that women no longer feel the need to walk this path alone.”
In addition to documenting her own personal experience and consulting with professionals in the field of IVF, Tahyna also speaks to a host of Australian women who open up about their own losses, including well-known names such as Teresa Palmer, Deborra-Lee Furness and Claire Holt. It’s a real, honest and totally raw doco that will no doubt help millions of women, couples and families who have experienced pregnancy loss, as well as give some insight into those needing to gain a better understanding of it.
You can watch the trailer below:
Megan Gale spoke to Monty On The Couch about her experience with miscarriage and grief a while back it was incredibly honest and emotional. You can listen to that episode below and subscribe to our pod here for more.