I’ve been pregnant twice in my life and at the end of both of those pregnancies, I was lucky enough to bring home a healthy baby – and it’s not lost on me, even for a second, how incredibly fortunate this makes me. I know the stats, as I’m sure you do too. According to Sands, (the Australian miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal death charity) ONE in FOUR women will experience a miscarriage before 20 weeks – and this doesn’t take into account those who have lost without realising they were even pregnant.
I have known many women who have experienced pregnancy loss and their experiences have been wide and varied. One close friend, who lost several pregnancies, was very matter-of-fact about each loss and said she took them as a sign that ‘something wasn’t right’ with the development of the embryo in those early weeks. I have also had friends who were absolutely blindsided by their loss and have never recovered; an ache left in their heart for the baby they would never meet or watch grow through life.
Of course, there is no right or wrong way to feel or go through it; however YOU experience it IS the right way.
Like so many other experiences of trauma and loss, there is something magical and healing in the ‘togetherness’ of a shared experience. There’s a comfort in knowing you’re not alone; that although your circumstances are never exactly the same, there are others out there who can relate to what you’ve been through.
This week on the podcast we were joined by the incredible Em Rusciano, who spoke to us about the loss of her baby boy, Ray, 16 weeks into her pregnancy. Em was incredibly raw and honest and shared moments that are rarely discussed openly, like her fight to take her baby home and bury him in a place where he would remain close to her and her family. It’s heartbreaking and beautiful and sprinkled with Em’s unique brand of humour that only she can pull off.
Em Rusciano is warm and generous, but also a woman who takes the world by the balls in a way that inspires you to do the same. Em’s warming up her killer pipes and prepping to kick off her new show, The Rage and Rainbows Tour, on July 19 in Melbs and then she’ll be hitting all the cap cities around Oz. You can purchase your tix and learn more about the show here. Check out Em’s original songs on Spotify here so you can belt them out with her at the show!
You can listen to the rest of our pod with Em below, which also covered intense PMS, Steel Magnolias, Madonna, exxy candles and bargain supermarket meat and HEAPS more. Prepare to fall head over heels with this lady…
So many beautiful women we’ve had On the Couch have shared their experience with miscarriage with us and you can watch them here…