Babies, Parenting

Do you lie to your kids about Santa?

Brooke by Brooke
November 25th, 2016

How bloody cute/cheeseball is that pic of Monty and her boys on the fat man’s lap? I need to get one pronto.

I am a total sucker for all things Christmas. I love everything about it, the smell of a real Christmas tree, the midday Christmas movies, seeing Santa at the shopping centres – the whole lot. I can remember putting out beer and cookies for Santa every Christmas Eve and trying so hard not to fall asleep because I so badly wanted to catch a glimpse of the magical white-bearded man. Likewise, I can still remember the name of the girl in grade four who told me that Santa wasn’t real. What a cow. It broke my naive little heart.


My Edie Bug’s first Christmas…we really get into the spirit of things!

While I had to find out sometime, I can’t help but believe a little bit of the Christmas magic is lost when a child finds out Santa Clause isn’t real. I am now a mum of a 20 month-old little babe and I can’t wait for her to start believing in the magic that is Christmas. I want us to bake treats to leave out for Santa and start creating our own Christmas traditions together.

So, when I read today that two Australian academics have said parents who tell their children that Santa is real are participating in a damaging ‘collective lie on a global scale’ I almost chocked on my reindeer dust.

According to University of New England social scientists Kathy McKay and Christopher Boyle, lying is wrong and makes it difficult for children to trust their parents. The article, A wonderful lie, is published in the latest issue of the Lancet psychiatry journal.

“Morally, making children believe in myths such as this has to be questioned. Is the world so bad that we decide that it is better to spend around 10 years lying to children about a large jolly man who gives presents to all children with the help of mythical creatures, because it makes for more enjoyment at Christmas?”

The article goes on…

“Why should children question the parent who tells them to be careful touching a hot stove or crossing the road, when they tell them about a jolly man who apparently bends time and space to deliver presents to every child in the world at Christmas? If they are capable of lying about something so special and magical, can they be relied upon to continue as the guardians of wisdom and truth?”

Morally, making children believe in myths such as this has to be questioned.

Surely not? Isn’t it all part of being a kid? I, along with my sisters and all my family and friends, spent the first 8 or so years of my life believing that Santa was very true and it hasn’t damaged or traumatised me in any way. Surely we all need to just calm down a little, right?

And anyways, if we have to tell our kids that Santa isn’t true, how will we bribe them to do what they’re told for the month of December or else Santa won’t come? It’s really a lose-lose for everyone.