Imagine having your baby, a third boy, and being told the following; ‘You’re kidding’, ‘Bummer, you’ll have to back to get a girl’, ‘Wow, that’s a real handful’, ‘Oh no, who will look after you in your old age?’, ‘I’m so sad for you’.
I had my third boy nine months ago and I can count on one hand how many positive comments I’ve received.
I’ve always wanted to have three kids. I didn’t care what gender they were, as long as they were healthy. I’ve been exposed to a lot of disability in my family so I’m not naive about the things that can go wrong when you have a baby. Before I got pregnant, throughout my pregnancy and once my children were born, I lived in constant fear that the doctors would tell me one of my kids had something that wasn’t deemed ‘normal.’
Luckily, so far so good.
I relate to boys well. I have two brothers so grew up with boys and as a result, I was a total tomboy. I was more than happy when I found out I had my third boy. This is not to say I wouldn’t be happy if I had a girl. But I honestly didn’t mind what I had. However, I do mind that people make off the cuff comments like the ones I mentioned above without realising they’re being so rude. God forbid my youngest son hears these comments one day and thinks that maybe we were bummed he came out a boy. Dramatic? Maybe, but it hurts me to think that he could hear these type of comments at some point in his life.
I know people don’t mean to be rude or hurtful…but after hearing it OVER and OVER again when I tell people what gender our gorgeous number three is, I’m starting to get a litttttle over it.
My baby is healthy, and pretty darn delectable (if I do say so myself). I believe that you get what you’re given and what you can handle in life. I will enjoy every nook and cranny of these boys because I’m lucky enough to have them.
But for now, I will use this forum to tell people far and wide – please don’t feel bad for people like me that have children that are all one gender. Although some people would wish to have a boy and girl they’re certainly not sad about what they have. They love that baby all the same.
If you want to see my incredible birth pictures of Mack’s arrival click here.
Bec Judd shared some of the shitty comments she copped when she found out she was pregnant with her twin boys and the anxiety she felt. Have a listen below, then subscribe to our pod here for more awesome chats from On the Couch and Show+Tell Radio (which is proudly brought to you by the good peeps at AAMI).