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What is ‘Yes Day’ and why is Jen Garner all over it?

Melissa Imbesi by Melissa Imbesi
October 2nd, 2017

Seriously, how tired did you think it was possible to get before having kids? Even though I’m out of the baby stage, I feel like consistent good night sleeps are always just beyond my reach…because there’s always something. Someone wants a drink during the night. Someone wakes up with that barking cough you just KNOW is croup. Or, someone just “can’t sleep” and wants to discuss the goings on of the day at 2.20am. I’d like to think that when my kids are teens and young adults this sleep deprivation will be over, but I know it won’t. I can’t even imagine the anxiety that will come when their toy cars are replaced with real ones, pyjama parties are replaced with nightclubs and apple juice is traded in for vino.

Life with kids is so much more full on than I ever dreamed, but the thought of them growing up and not needing me fills me with sadness. When I think of it that way, I’m prepared to put up with the fatigue to soak up all the goodness of those little hands clawing at my neck for hugs and random convos in the middle of the night.

Jennifer Garner may be a Hollywood superstar, but she’s also a mum to three kids (Violet, Seraphina and Samuel)…and she’s tired AF, just like the rest of us. Jen recently posted a pic looking gorgeous but T.I.R.E.D the morning after ‘Yes Day,’ captioning the pic, “You’ll never need coffee more than the day after ‘Yes Day!'”

Jen's Insta post says it all: “You’ll never need coffee more than the day after ‘Yes Day!’”

Jen’s Insta post says it all: “You’ll never need coffee more than the day after ‘Yes Day!’”

I actually couldn’t give a hoot how big Jen’s undereye bags are, I’ve got my own to look at, but I was intrigued by this ‘Yes Day’ she mentioned. Turns out this is a seriously awesome (albeit tiring) little tradition she has been celebrating with her kids for five years. And I’m stealing it.

The book that inspired Jen.

The book that inspired Jen.

Inspired by the book of the same name by author Amy Krouse Rosenthal, the woman who wrote an INCREDIBLE dating profile for her husband while she was dying of caner, ‘Yes Day’ is the sweetest idea. Basically, it comes around once a year and allows kids to indulge in a day filled with stuff THEY want to do – and their parents must oblige. Of course, you can make whatever rules you want around this, but I think it’s just a really beautiful idea to get back to connecting with your kids. Insert Jen’s tired face. She’d spent the night sleeping  in a tent outside, a ‘Yes Day’ request from one of her kids.

I think I love this so much because it’s not about spending cash and buying (more) stuff, it’s essentially about spending time together. While writing this, I stopped to ask my kids what their ‘Yes Day’ would look like…and it made me feel really guilty. My nine-year-old requested slime-making and excitedly looked at me and said, “And for you to play games with us – and you’re NOT allowed to look at your phone!” Ouch.

So tomorrow morning, I’ll put my phone in a drawer and we’ll sit down over breakfast and plan out our ‘Yes Day’ for each of them. I’ll mark out those days in my diary and dive, head-first, into a day that is solely about my kids and what they want to do – and I’ll even leave my phone at home. Who knows, it might do me more good than them. Thanks, Jen.

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