Friendship, Relationships

Sometimes our besties are the loves of our lives

Carla McConnell by Carla McConnell
December 22nd, 2016

When people find out I’m a single mum I often get that look of pity. They assume that things must be that little bit tougher without a man to share my life with. Sure being a single mum isn’t always smooth sailing but I am surrounded by amazing wonderful supportive women who rock my world on a daily basis. Because I have them I never feel like I’m alone in this world.

I completely get what Michelle Williams meant when she recently described her Dawson’s Creek co-star Busy Phillips as her “soulmate” and the “love of her life”. Michelle and Busy have been besties for over 20 years and often attend events together. Busy is the godmother of Michelle’s daughter, Matilda, from her marriage to Heath Ledger, and at the recent screening of her new film Manchester by the Sea, Michelle told reporters of Busy; “I’m so in love with her. She’s proof that the love of your life does not have to be a man! That’s the love of my life right there.”

I feel the same way about my two besties Erin and Liberty. My friendships with both of them have also lasted over 20 years, much longer than any of my romantic relationships. They have seen me through good times and bad and I know whatever happens I have them on my side. We often talk about when we are sitting side by side in our rocking chairs at 80-years-old gossiping about everything we have been through together. I don’t know what I would do without these girls, they really are my ‘true loves’.

The loves of my life Liberty and Erin

The loves of my life Liberty and Erin

I hope one day I am lucky enough to find a man that ‘gets me’ on the level these two do, but if it doesn’t happen I feel lucky enough to have found friendship like this. They are the ones that I can call in the middle of the night and say ‘I need you’ and they are there. The ones who accept my warts and all and still make me feel like I’m always worthwhile. I feel the same way about them. To be completely accepted for who you are is a gift and I don’t take it for granted.

There’s something really special about female friendships and when I’m hanging out with my girls there’s no place I’d rather be. I completely agree with Michelle that our soulmate in life doesn’t need to be a man or woman and in a romantic relationship, they are just the person that makes us feel that we’re already everything we need to be.

Michelle and her best friend Busy

Michelle and her best friend Busy

Do you have a ‘soul mate’ friendship?

Here are some of the fab women we have had On The Couch talking about the importance of their female friendships: