Infidelity is never cut and dry, is it? If you had to think about what constitutes cheating in your relationship, how would you define it? A kiss? An emotional connection? Full blown sex? Even more varied than the definition of infidelity within our relationships are our reactions to them. For some, a suggestive text is enough to call time and walk away and for others, the discovery of a secret and ongoing sexual relationship is still worth working through.
Just last week, Justin Timberlake set tongues wagging when he and his Palmer co-star, Alisha Wainwright, were snapped holding hands on a balcony of a New Orleans bar. By his own admission, JT was shitfaced that night and in a recent statement, described his behaviour as “a strong lapse in judgement”.
While Justin Timberlake’s behaviour both within and outside of his relationship is none of our beeswax, it definitely makes me think about my own relationship boundaries. A snap of a female colleague with her hand resting on my husband’s knee probably isn’t enough to get me riled up. As a touchy-feely person by nature, this is potentially something I would innocently do myself – so this being considered as cheating is a little far-fetched to me.
A pic of my husband holding hands with another woman under the table is an entirely different story, though. I would definitely not like it. Actually, I would HATE it and I know, at least for the person I am, that it would cause some serious problems in our relationship. Chances are, it could reveal some serious problems too.
The thing is, long-term, monogamous relationships can be monotonous sometimes. Daily life can get hard. From time to time, you might even find yourself attracted to other people – but I reckon that’s the beauty of a committed relationship. Seeing through the bright, shiny lights of something new and walking by to find your way home… because there’s nowhere in the world you’d rather be.
We chatted about this on our latest ep of Show+Telling, and here’s a little taste of how it went down…
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