When my daughter was about a week old and sleeping in my arms, my husband came and placed a small make up bag in my lap. It was the weirdest thing, but I remember saying to him, “do I look that bad?” and he just told me to open it.
Inside was a box that held three diamond bands that I had mentioned I liked while out shopping one day during my pregnancy. “What’s this for?” I asked and he said, “For giving me her,” motioning to our daughter. I immediately burst into tears, firstly because my husband and I aren’t big gift-givers to each other and secondly, because I felt so appreciated – even though WE had made her, the birth was a difficult one with falling heart rates, a bit of vacuum-up-vag action and many hours of pushing. In that moment, that make up bag could have had a lipstick in it and I would have been completely chuffed, because it was unexpected and made me feel like I was a big-time hero; which of course all us mums are.
Back then (in 2008), I hadn’t heard of a push present, but have since seen many friends gifted some pretty cool and elaborate gifts from their partners for bearing children. I asked Monty, Brooke, Stace and Carla whether they scored in the gift department, and they all said they got nada, even though Monts is still holding onto hopes of a Thermomix.
Is the expectation of a push present all just a bit of bullshit or a well-earned gift for a pretty epic effort? Personally, I reckon they’re a bit of bullshit. I know it sound hypocritical to say because I technically got one, but it was totally unexpected and the term ‘push present’ wasn’t in my world back then. I think it’s the expectation that doesn’t sit right with me, not the actual act of giving itself. Seriously, who doesn’t like a present?
Model and new mum Chrissie Teigen took matters into her own hands and bought herself a push present. It wasn’t a piece of jewellery or some gorgeous antique or homewares, it was far more practical and aimed at healing the part of her body that had just taken a pretty decent battering, one that left her tweeting, “no one told me I would be coming home in diapers too.”
May we present, the ‘Perineal Irrigation Bottle’, which really just looks like a plastic drink bottle to me. The peri bottle’s website claims that it will ‘heal and reduce the chance of irritation or infection of the sutured perineal area.” Instinctively, I just closed my legs together. Real tight.
While we’re talking Chrissie, check out these gorgeous Snapchat pics of her and her girl…
Did you get a push present? What are your thoughts on them?