So I’ve been thinking about something lately, I’m now a 34-year-old married woman with my first child. I pay my bills on time, do a weekly supermarket shop and wear face moisturiser which pretty much makes me a fully fledged grown up, right?
I know myself well now, I’m more confident in myself and my choices than ever before. I don’t let people get away with treating me poorly, something I sort of swept under the rug when I was younger.
All of the knowledge and confidence I have now is something that would have come in really handy when I was dating men in my 20’s. Instead, I made more bad choices than I care to admit and I put up with things that ‘grown up 34-year-old me’ would never stand for!
If I had the wisdom and knowledge then that I have now, navigating through my dating days would have been much more pleasant. If only the now-me could go back in time to the dating me in my 20’s and show her how it’s done!
Below are some little bits of dating advice I wish I’d had known back then! If you are on the dating scene now I hope you get a little something from them to minimise the pain and awakwardness I endured.
– Do NOT drink too much. I don’t know if it’s the nerves or the fact that I thought I was more fun with a few bevvies under my belt that made me guzzle endless glasses of champagne on dates. But the golden rule is to follow Patti Stringer advice (millionaire matchmaker) and stick to a two drink maximum.
– Do NOT under value yourself. You are fun. Sometimes funny even. If the gent doesn’t think so, that’s fine, see you later!
– Do NOT booty call. Ever. As tempting as it is at 3am after 42 margaritas it is never really a great idea. Not many deep and meaningful relationships result from the drunken dial.
– Do NOT waste time wondering. I spent a lot of time trying to figure out if the guy I was dating was into me. I spent unmentionable amounts of time dissecting simple texts and gazing at my mobile wishing it to ring. The bottom line is that if he is in to you, he will call.
– Pay attention to the red flags. It can be easy to dismiss little things like him going awol for weeks on end, but these are signs to run like hell.
– Someone not liking you doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you. It’s all about timing.
– I am a feminist BUT if a guy asks you out on a first date and doesn’t pay, he’s a douche. Move on and quickly.
If you’re in your 20’s and anything like I was you will probably ignore all of these rules. But don’t say I didn’t try!
What do you wish you could do differently?