Parenting, What's On Our Mind

Do you go on holidays without your kids?

Monty by Monty
November 18th, 2016

After heaving my precious tots out, I have only really spent one maybe two nights away from them max. I happily ship them off for sleep-overs at their Grandparents, but it’s only ever for one night at a time.

So when my friend asked me if I was up for four nights away with her in Noooosa (you have to say it like that), I felt a little unsure…but within a few seconds screamed “Hell YES”.  Her dad has an apartment there so accommodation was free (win) and her being childless meant that I just HAD to leave my rat bags at home too (win win).

The second I booked my flights I felt a bit panicky though. What if I get to paradise and pine for my offspring the whole time? Am I being a bad mum going away for four nights without my family? What if one of them breaks a neck or shits the bed on my mums watch, I would feel awful.

momThat familiar feeling of the bitch that is mothers guilt crept in and stayed with me right up until I got on the plane.

It was at that moment when I sat down in my chair with my ear phones on and a mag in my mitts that I realised I had quite possibly made the best decision of my life.

The last time my derrière was on a plane seat, I had two kids climbing all over me. Flights with kids are my version of living hell. They always turn into monstrous pests on plane rides.

As I sat reclined with ear phones on and scrolling through insta like I was on crack, I felt freeeeee.

For the next four days I laid pool side only having to lather sunscreen on my own snoz. I ate my own meal without having to share it and I slept in until after the sun came up. For four days I had life with no obligations. There was no other human to keep alive or entertain and I realised how much I missed that feeling of freedom. I didn’t miss my kids. At all. Like not even for a second.

As I sat on the plane this time with the nose of it pointing towards home, I felt super grateful. What a seriously wild four days (of doing nothing) I’d just had. There is nothing more rewarding and special to me than being a mum to my kids, but I also need a little time to not be ‘on’. I didn’t realise just how important it is to get a little R&R, sans rug rats.

I’m going to do it weekly now, in fact I’m moving to Noosa…by myself.

Have you been away from your kids? How did it go? 

  • Lindsay

    Are you kidding? Bad mother… Come on! I would say you are honest in sharing this, independent because you decided this, successful because you could do this, compassionate because you thought about Bax, and focused on being the best version of yourself! We ALL need to make time for ourselves and by doing this, you’ve taught Bax some of the best qualities in women!
    Take me on your next trip! Ha!
    Cheers Linz

  • Monty

    YOU are SO coming next trip… M xxx

  • Helen

    Hi Monty…I really loved reading this…it was inspiring..especially for me…I have a confession to make…I’ve never been on a girls trip away and have booked and paid for my first one pending Feb 2014 (see Surf Angels on Facebook !)
    My son is 14 !
    I ummed and ahhed so many times and when I was booking the flight I was so nervous (crazy I know)…my husband practically forced me to go..I think it’s time…I don’t know what its like to be on the beach and sun bake for as long as I like without being on beach patrol…My trip is a Surf / Yoga week retreat in Byron Bay…I’m so excited I could burst !
    And I know my husband and son are just as excited because they can watch tv as loud as they want and eat all the pizzas and soft drinks in the world for that week ! HA !
    I’m worried I may not come home !! LOL