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James Packer crying made me so uncomfortable.

Monty by Monty
February 10th, 2013

There is something confronting about seeing grown men cry. Watching James Packer break down on Channel Seven’s ‘Sunday Night’ program made me feel a little awkward.  I wish it didn’t feel odd to see men cry, but it does. I can count the amount of times on one hand that I’ve seen my boyfriend of eight years shed a tear. Its not that he isn’t emotional, he just doesn’t cry often.  Unlike me who cries during WorkSafe commercials.

I remember seeing my Dad cry for the first time when I was about five. My parents had just broken up and he’d popped over to visit my older sister and I. It must have been the first time he had to say goodbye, knowing that we were never going to all live in the same house again. I remember feeling so unbelievably sad seeing my Dad upset. He was always so strong and in control. As far as I knew, Dads never cried. I desperately wanted his tears to stop, but didn’t know what to do. I started doing the only thing that felt right…and cried too. Since that day I have seen him cry a fair bit. He is quite an emotional man now and the older he gets the more his eyes well up and tend to over flow.  But it still feels uncomfortable.

I LOVE a good water works session. There’s nothing better than going into the ugly cry and letting it all out. Most of the women in my life are good at letting the tears flow too.  And when they do…I embrace it.  It’s just men crying that makes me squirm.

Sitting on my couch tonight watching Mr Packer wipe his tears away (while talking about Tom Cruise mind you!) I wanted to look away. I stopped myself though. Am I going to be the kind of mum who tells my son “big boys don’t cry”, Or am I going to embrace his emotions and let him sook his little heart out?

Who would have thought James Packers bromance with Tom Cruise would lead to so much pondering.

Would you like to see men cry more often?

  • littlescout

    Monty, I love when men cry! As you say, perhaps it’s because it doesn’t happen everyday, but when my long-term boyfriend has cried in front of me, I feel like it’s such an intensely personal and private moment, that he’s allowed me to see him at his most vulnerable. Don’t even get me started about how much I love to see men cry when they watch their bride walk down the aisle – that’s the best!

  • Monty

    Yessss, the man seeing his bride for the first time is the best sort of tears in the world.. xx

  • Amy D

    I also loved seeing my husband cry when our son was born. Such a joyous and intimate occasion where tears can not be stopped really! I don’t mind seeing him cry, it is usually for good reasons, so it does not bother me. Although I do think I would be uncomfortable with men I don’t know as well as my husband, crying..

  • Aimee

    Monty, I’m like you and will have a cry at any kind of remotely emotional ad. The QANTAS ad used to really set me off! Then there was the Teacher’s Federation ad……but that was because of the song.
    Anyway! I don’t care whether it’s a guy or a gal crying, so long as it’s genuine then I’ll have a good ol’ sob right there with them. And that’s what I was doing last night while watching the James Packer interview.
    I think he came across as a really genuine bloke. His tears were real. Good on him for not holding back.

    James Packer aside, congratulations on the site. From what I’ve seen so far I’m loving it. Keep it coming :)

  • zemule

    Seeing my father cry for the first time in almost 15 years after his stroke really shook me. It’s quite unnerving when someone you associate with strength breaks down. But it was far from a bad thing., he’s still a strong ol fella!

  • Monty

    Isnt that the bee’s knees. The most surreal moment looking at your new little baby. I loved seeing my bf tear up then too. One of the times ive witnessed his tears… heaven x

  • Monty

    Songs ALWAYS get me too Aimee…
    Thanks for loving what you see so far. we will be updating lots so visit us lots..


  • Monty

    That would have been heartbreaking. hope your dad is doing well now. Lots of love xxx

  • Summergirl

    Big difference between being a sooky lala man or just incredibly touched or moved or happy. These times are the most amazing sign of the size and openness of a heart I think. But out of heartbreak is the hardest because its a case of “if you’re crying, it must be just so terrible”. I’ve never blubbered more than at weddings where the groom or the father of the bride tears up out of love or pride!! And it’s at a lot of weddings!!!!