Relationships, What's On Our Mind

A message to terrorists from the man who lost his wife in Paris

Melissa Imbesi by Melissa Imbesi
November 19th, 2015

There are some incredibly ugly-hearted people in this world of ours but thankfully, the balance is in favour of the beautiful and kind-hearted variety.

Then, there are the exceptional ones. People like Antoine Leiris – the man who lost his wife in the Paris attacks – a man who is refusing to succumb to hate and determined to provide a beautiful life for his 17 month old son, Melvil.

Here is what he had to say on his Facebook page:

On Friday night you took the life of an exceptional being, the love of my life, the mother of my child, but you won’t have my hatred.

I don’t know who you are and I don’t want to know; your souls are dead. If this “God” that you blindly kill for truly did make us in his image, every bullet in the body of my wife would have wounded his heart. And so no, I won’t give you the gift of my hatred.

You’ve certainly sought it, but to respond to hatred with anger would be giving in to the same ignorance that made you the way you are. You want me to be afraid, you want me to look suspiciously at my fellow citizens, to give up my freedom for safety. Well you’ve lost. I will keep going.

I saw her this morning, finally, after days and nights of waiting. She was as beautiful as when she left home on Friday night, as beautiful as the night I fell hopelessly in love with her over 12 years ago.

Of course, I’m devastated by the pain, I’ll cede this small victory, but it won’t last forever. I know she’ll be with us every day, and we’ll be with her again in paradise as free souls that you could never touch.

There’s two of us, me and my son, but we’re stronger than all the world’s armies. Actually, I’ve no more time for you, I’ve got to go and get Melvil who’s waking up from his nap. Just 17 months old, he’ll have his snack just like every day, and then we’ll play just like every day, and this little boy will insult you with his happy carefree existence.

Because no, you will not have his hatred either.

Our respect, admiration, love and prayers are with Antoine and Melvil.