Relationships, What's On Our Mind

My mum sat me down and used her serious voice to tell me my aunty was gay

Carla McConnell by Carla McConnell
March 17th, 2016

When I was 12-years-old my mum sat me down and told me in a very serious voice that my aunty was gay. To say I already knew  would be an understatement, so I was a bit shocked that my mum was using her ‘serious’ voice. I had known my aunty was gay before I could define what it even was. She loved women, and that had always been clear to me.

My mum was totally accepting of my aunty but had witnessed her experience discrimination because of her sexuality, so I guess the scary voice was her making sure we would be supportive. There is still a lot to do in the fight for equality but these were crazy days when a union could get you fired from your work for being gay.

My mother didn’t need to worry about my reaction because to me, she was my beautiful aunty and who she chose to love did not matter to me at all. In fact I kinda felt like the people around me were making a big deal out of something that didn’t need to be made into a drama.

As an adult, I realise now it is a big drama. Not because she’s gay, but because she doesn’t have the same rights I do.

It makes me so so angry that I could  marry someone I met yesterday because I choose too, but my aunty could spend years with someone and not have that right.  It is so massively embarrassing that as a country we are still fighting for this.

Here Joel Creasey talks about coming out to his family and experiencing homophobia. He was lucky to have a beautiful family who completely accepted who he is.

I hope for a world where no person has to come out, but just gets to be who they are. We ALL need to fight for this: