“Making the decision to have a child – it’s momentous. It is to decide to have your heart go walking around outside your body” – Elizabeth Stone
But God, some days are hard. Some days are SO hard.
It might not be this way for everyone, but I know for myself that some days feel harder when my parenting is being judged. Some days the decisions I make for my children, despite being the absolute best ones in my mind, feel more difficult to make for fear of judgement from other mothers and fathers. And teachers. And friends. And grandparents. And so on…
Judgement is shit. It’s an extra special variety of shit when used against parents. There’s an extra caustic sting that goes along with judgements against your parenting because you automatically feel like you’re failing your children in some way….like your best isn’t good enough.
I’m no angel; I have judged. Many, many times. In my mind, I have judged other parents more times than I care to admit and although this isn’t something to be proud of, it IS something to learn from. So I’m making a conscious effort to silence the judgemental voice that mouths off in my head from time to time.
We’re all doing our best. My parenting style is probably worlds apart from yours, but I’ll bet my life on the fact that we’re both just trying to do what’s best for our babies. The paths we take are varied, but ultimately we are all headed for the same destination, right? Happy, healthy children.
Have a watch of this brilliant commercial called ‘Welcome to the Sisterhood of Motherhood’ – it’s hilarious and although exaggerated, rings true for almost all of us.