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This is what a real woman’s post baby body looks like

Monty by Monty
December 24th, 2014

This was the EIGHTH most read piece on Show + Tell this year.

After giving birth to my son three years ago, I remember looking down at my tummy for weeks after he was born (actually months) and thinking that I still looked six months pregnant. Shock horror, that is the REALITY for most of us after we pop out a bebe.

I had to constantly talk myself through my body issues and remind myself that the pouch under my top was what my healthy son called home for nine months. It’s really confronting that after the baby is in your arms your body doesn’t magically go back to it’s pre baby shape. The reality for many of us is that the ‘pre baby’ bod may never return.

I wish I could say who really cares? But most women do. I know I do. I wish I didn’t. I really wish I didn’t. I have wasted far too much time over my 32 years worrying about things like my waist and derierre size.

There is nothing like giving birth to bring what this body business is all about to the forefront. I didn’t feel sexy or overly comfortable in my clothes after I gave birth but it smacked me in the face that there is a higher purpose for our bodies than trying to look smoking hot in a bikini. Even if a lot of the time it doesn’t feel like that.

The other day I was on Facebook and saw one of my friends Chelsea from I Heart Bargains post a pic of her post baby body. She had her daughter Clem one week ago.

The picture gave me goose bumps and as I waited in the checkout line at Coles I had to stop myself from tearing up and forcing her pic in front of peoples eyes.

This is what she posted on her I heart Bargains Facebook page. NOT her private one, the one for EVERYONE to see.

Clementine is a week old. This is a picture of a real body, post baby. Posting this pic makes me feel so uncomfortable because I’m nowhere near my ‘normal’ weight and I have curves on my curves. However I’m making a point for all of us women who feel the pressure to look a certain way as soon as they’ve had their baby. It’s not realistic. This is what women look like. 

what does a post baby body look like?

Chelsea’s courage really inspired me and hopefully it does you too.

Ladies lets try and love our bodies. At the end of the day, we are kinda stuffed without them.

PS- A massive Congrats to Chels for having a beautiful lil lady Clementine. xxx

How did you feel about your post baby body?

  • Nat Le Fevre

    Oh Monty, this article couldn’t have come at a better time for me! I had my second daughter ten weeks ago and nearly everyday I look at my body and yearn for the time when it wasn’t as wobbly, rotund, etc. I was very happy with my weight before I got pregnant for the second time, but now I’m not at that same viewpoint. BUT I am also trying to remind myself EVERY day that I only had a baby ten weeks ago and that is no mean feat! I also have an almost three year old so making time to exercise, put myself first, etc is not easy. I know that one day, i will be happy (maybe accepting rather) with my body once again and I won’t spend soooooo much time worrying about it! Thank you :)

  • Monty

    Hey Nat,

    No mean feat indeed. We need to be kinder t ourselves. Wobbles and all. Lots of love and CONGRATS MAMMA xxx

  • Em

    Love this! My new baby is 4 weeks old I had a very long 40 hour labor ending in a c section and had that many drugs I could open a chemist. Resulting in a very puffy me. 4 weeks on and I still can’t put my rings on my fingers as I still have fluid. My maternity pants are too big but my normal jeans don’t fit. And yes this shocks me. As a normally extremely fit person I expected to be wearing my normal clothes by now And this is what the media lead us to believe so of course I feel disappointed because that’s how we are made to feel!
    But I have come to the realisation that I have a beautiful healthy baby and my body will go back In time and I’ll do it all again. In the meantime the media (and certain media personalities) need to keep their post baby body photos to themselves.